I asked Shanessa’s daughter, who is 17, what are the secrets to greater happiness. She gave me a quick list: • More freedom. My parents are too strict. • More friends ‘liking’ my posts on Facebook. • Live more like the models and superstars in the checkout mags and on TV. • Date more often. • Nicer car. • More movies and less schoolwork. • An iPad.

At the other end of the age spectrum, I asked a heart doctor, who is probably 70 and jogs several times each week. He said Mindfulness was one secret for destressing and happiness. When I asked what Mindfulness was, he gave an example. When you first taste a glass of wine, you comment on it.… More

This article is dedicated to my mother, who is 91 years today. Happy birthday Mum!

Last week, two good friends of mine from Houston stayed with me in ABQ for a week. Nancy and Dan had never met before coming to ABQ, so I was a little unsure how they would get along. All three of us were single, and each of us had broken up from a romantic relationship in the past six weeks. How weird is that! So we sang together the old Hank Williams song:

“There’s a tear in my beer coz I’m crying for you dear. You are on my lonely mind. I’ve cried and I’ve cried but my tears I cannot hide. You are on my lonely mind”.… More

Every close relationship (eg, romantic; marriage; boss and employee; parent and child) can be described by a positive circle and a negative circle. If the positive circle is larger, the relationship tends to succeed, and vice versa. The success of a relationship can depend on which circle we emphasize. If we emphasize the positive, that circle tends to grow, and God may even amplify the circle further. And vice versa. Therefore, one key in a good relationship is to emphasize the positive rather than the negative.

Within this context, problems come to everyone, rich or poor. How we respond to them is critical. Can we respond positively? Or do we react negatively? How resilient are we? Resilience is a relatively new word that has crept into education theory……it’s now become popular to teach our kids about this.… More

To view these two giants of wellness talking side-by-side was the highlight of my TV week. Andy Weil, with his full white beard, exudes wisdom when he talks about holistic medicine.

Pointing to bottles of supplements set out neatly on a table, Weil discussed alternative medicines: bottles for the heart and blood pressure, bottles for the immune system, bottles for the brain. After this, he grinned at Dr Oz, jumped into the subject of depression, and mentioned two things that can be helpful.… More


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